Give Me Freedom

Parenting is hard.

It’s true that every generation faces their own hurdles that they need to overcome to align with what society says is ‘good parenting’.

I’m finding it difficult to allow myself to allow my kids to have fun without being judged.

Thanks to social media and the ability to spread news farther and faster than ever before it sounds like a horrible world out there. Gratefully my kids are 6 and 2.5 so we’re kind of okay right now. But there are things I would have done as a child that I’ll be damned I let my kids do now for fear of getting arrested or something.

When I was growing up you played outside. You went off and were told to be back by a certain time. I lived pretty rurally in my childhood so what really happened is we were tossed outside and told to go play until you hear someone yelling your name.

And we did.

I explored forests, went on loooong walks, played in burned out buildings (a barn had burned down. Obviously I only went in long after the fire was done), played in an abandoned house and discovered nature. Trees, animals, plants, all kinds of things were in my domain. Came back to the house for meals and then was off.

Granted I don’t remember these times in my life too well because there was a lot of stress and trauma happening at the same time. But I do remember the freedom.

If I were to let my 6 year old play in my fenced, relatively danger-free backyard, alone, I’d probably get arrested.

Which sucks.

I also live in town which is weird for me. I don’t know what to do with kids when you live in town. I didn’t live in a town until I was in my early teens so to have a 6 year old who is just begging to be released into the wilds and run around fields and having no place to do that is a task I’m dealing with.

Kids don’t come with manuals and we have to go by what our parents showed us as kids. If you didn’t have great parents or if there were things about your childhood you hated and you want to change, parenting is even that much more foreign to you.

But I can be taught. There are places I can take my kid and let him roam. There are activities he can do and enjoy the outdoors as much as I did.

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Posted by Sarah Jayne

6 comments

thesarahdoughty

That’s very true. But I think also, with news and social media, not only is it seemed as irresponsible to let kids roam, but in today’s society the horror stories alone would make me afraid to let it happen, even if it was still socially acceptable.

Sarah Jayne Nantais

Which is where I get concerned. Most of these things happened when we were kids too, we just never knew.

thesarahdoughty

Exactly.

beeorganizedwithpamela

Sarah you are right. Most of those things happened when we were kids too. Kid’s today have no idea how much freedom we had back in the day. But that being said you gotta parent the way you feel is right for you and your kids.

Sarah Jayne Nantais

True! It’s all a learning process!

beeorganizedwithpamela

That is true. No owners manual.

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