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#BellLetsTalk

Today’s post is in honour of Bell’s Let’s Talk initiative they have here in Canada. For today, January 25, 2017, Bell will donate ¢5 for every tweet and retweet with the hashtag #BellLetsTalk to mental health initiatives. This is a big deal for a lot of people and it helps open the dialogue about mental health. My post today is going to focus on that, but I don’t want people to feel like they’re reading something they’re not ready for, or don’t want. So keep reading if you want, but I won’t be offended if you don’t.

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It's Not Me, It's You

Bye

I am the worst when it comes to self care. I forget about looking after my own mental health more often than not. There’s no good reason for it, other than to say that it wasn’t something I grew up witnessing. Being the eldest in a single parent household I watched my mother work herself to the bone, sometimes doing two jobs at once. In my final year of high school I worked three jobs and went to school full time. I’m even currently looking at getting a part time job so that my husband doesn’t have to work while he’s in his final year of his program.

I know I need to do better. The house can look after itself for the ten minutes it would take for me to do some lead meditation or just read a book by myself.

I downloaded the Headspace app and am encouraging a friend to do it as well. While I can’t afford to subscribe, we can still support each other and inspire each other to do the free sessions.

In the meantime, I recently deleted my Facebook account.

I’ve been on Facebook since it came out; way back when it was supposed to be used as a tool to find out who was in your classes so that you can make friends.

Why did I make this change?

I had been finding that Facebook was increasing my anxiety. I had 40 friends and I was cutting back all the time. I just found that I was obsessively checking it, borderline stalking people and then getting upset over things I was seeing.

And getting jealous.

For no reason.

As well, Facebook was just another way for people to contact me, even when I didn’t want them to. Despite having a public blog and writing on it daily there are times when I want to be able to disconnect from all the crap and just chill on my own. I was tired of the pieces of information that were not essential to my life.

While I have faced harassment through this blog I found that even more harassment was happening through my author page on Facebook. People were getting contacted and being told incorrect information in order to slander my reputation.

So now it’s done.

I’ve still got Twitter and I have this site. I still have a work-related email address that I can filter easily.

Honestly, I feel so much better now that I’ve shut Facebook down. The compulsion to sign in and look at things that don’t matter is basically gone. I sent a message to the people who matter and gave them an email address if they wanted to keep in touch. The people I didn’t message were because I already have ways to connect with them outside of Facebook.

It’s a pretty sweet feeling of release and I’ve spent a whole weekend not even worrying about it.

Yeah. This feels good!

Bye FB

 

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Tonight We're Gonna Party Like It's 1999!

Well, maybe not 1999. Tonight is my work Christmas party! I’m pretty excited. All our remote staff members will be in the office today and this evening we will meet up at the Executive Director’s house for snacks and presents! We’re doing this present exchange thing where you can steal presents from each other? I’ve never done it before, so it will be new to me. My husband is a bit nervous since he’s the introverted type, so I hope he has a good time. There will be other introverts there that he can hang out with, so I think it will be fun. I won’t force him to do anything silly and I’ll be on my best behaviour too.

party

Speaking of the Husband he has an exam today! This week is all exams for him, but after this week he’s done for the year! I think he’s excited to be done the first term of his program. It’s been a bit rough in terms of adjusting to the reduced income, the new schedule, the new pressures and the new workload. We’ve kind of sorted that out so I think it should be all right.

Due to being under a lot of unnecessary stress lately I’ve booked in with a counsellor. I don’t see anything wrong with taking care of my mental health, yet others see it as a weakness. Mental health is just as important as physical health. I am in a new situation with new stresses and in order to maintain the way of life that I want, I need to get some help. This doesn’t mean I’m weak; far from it. I am strong enough to admit when I need help. I am only human. I’ve spent far too long in my life trying to be a super-human that it has taken me a long time to realise that it’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to admit I can’t do it all on my own.

Because I’m going to see a counsellor doesn’t mean I’m sick or broken. It means I just need that assistance in maintaining a balance. I’m not rich enough to be able to go to meditation or yoga AND kickboxing AND any other potential course to  help me keep my sanity. I would rather admit I need the help and get it than put my family through a tough spot. I’m a Libra. We’re all about balance.

balance

I’m usually really good at maintaining my balance, but like I said, there have been some unforeseen stresses this past month. My place of employment has an employee assistance program to help with things like this.

I am not weak. I will not break. If anything, I am stronger for this.

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