Surviving the 'Stay-at-home' Mum stint

Right now, the biggest challenge I am facing is NOT which character to kill off or how to transition from this scene to that scene. It’s not even figuring out how to show the subtle, yet amazing, emotional transformation of the main character.

No no. Right now my biggest challenge is being a Stay-at-home Mum.

Since the age of 14 I have worked. There have been times where I have worked 3 jobs while attending school full time. I think in University was the first time I went more than a month without working because I needed to focus on my studies.

After the Boy was born I was off work for 9 months as my husband and I shared parental leave. Then I was right back at it, working full time and many times being a single mum while my husband was gone for work.

We’ve now moved to a small town and being as pregnant as I am it doesn’t make sense to work when I’ll just be going on maternity leave in about 3 months now. Actually, I think it’s a bit less than that.

The first two weeks seemed easy. Now, as time drags on, I realize how isolated I am and how I have 0 adult interaction when my husband is gone. I’m hoping to change this with some play groups that are starting in the Fall, but for now, it’s such a weird and bizarre feeling.

Good news is my husband is going to construct our fence this weekend and assemble the trampoline we purchased for our son. This will allow us to at least be outside during the day. Right now it’s hard to go to the park because I can’t chase my son or carry him when it’s time to leave (and he NEVER wants to go home).

For now, the Boy and I will amuse ourselves with Legos, some Bugs Bunny shorts, and maybe some documentaries about the ocean narrated by David Attenborough. The Boy has recently expressed huge interest in the aquatic.

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Weekend in Ghostville

I still don’t have a charger for my tablet so I have yet to catch up on my reading.

I did a short review of what’s been going on with my book since I published it and not too many sales overall. But that’s okay. It’s not like I published it solely to make money.

Because I haven’t had time to catch up on my reading, I also haven’t had time to catch up on my writing. Now that we’re moved and settled (for the most part) my focus has been on trying to get EI to process my damn application within their “reasonable timeframe” (which is bollocks if you ask me. Give me a concrete time-frame, like 2-3 weeks or something). It’s now been 2 weeks since I submitted my application and nothing has yet to be determined. I would rather know yes or no. Either way is fine, but I can’t do much with my budgeting or life if I have no idea.

Aside from that, I’ve also been stressing out about going back to school in September 2014 and finding child care for that time. I’m not worried too much about The Boy because he’s old enough that for his age group there are lots of spots. The one I’m worried about is The Hatchling. The child care on base currently only lists 8 spots for that age group. The Hatchling will be 10 months. The child care at the University won’t take children until they are 2 years old and I would like to keep them together if I can. This means I might be restricted to Tuesday/Thursday classes because the “casual” childcare runs all day those days or online learning only. That is also going to impact any hope for a part time job.

*sigh* Maybe I won’t go back to school. It’s not like I’ll die without it. We might not even have enough money to send me back to school anyway. I might be better off looking for work and full time child care so we can save up to buy a house and potentially put my husband through school if he wants it.

We’ll see. I have lots of time to think about it and to try to get things organized. I’ve contacted the Child Care Coordinator for the base to see what the wait-list looks like so I have an idea. She’s on vacation, so I should hear from her in a couple weeks.

Until then, I’ll just hang out and try to enjoy my son without him driving me crazy. Which is hard for a three-year-old ahahaha.

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Almost Time to Move

So the countdown is on to leave Alberta and move to Manitoba.

My husband and I are going appliance shopping these next few weekends because the housing we’re being supplied with doesn’t have appliances. Which is fine, because IF we were to EVER buy a house of our own, we would have appliances to put in it.

I’m also mapping out the potential path for furthering my education. Man, I have a lot of schooling to do. But that’s okay! I like school. I’ve got several back-up employment plans in case school doesn’t work out.

I’ll apply to be a secretary with the school board (or do they call them Administrative Assistants now?), I’ll see if I can find a job teaching English as a Second Language since I’m qualified for that, I’ll try to find a job as a post-secondary school advisor since I’m doing that right now and really like it, OR:

I’ll work retail or something while I work on my stories.

I’m not particularly keen on working retail, even if it does give me time to work on my stories. I can still work on my stories no matter what job I have, I’ve proved that with Black & Red.

BUT, at least I have plans. Baby #2 is due in November and if I can manage to go back to school next Spring/Summer term, Child # 1 will be 4 and be able to go into Junior Kindergarten or Day Camp or something and Baby # 2 will be 6 months old. That might be a challenge to find childcare for a baby that young, but if it’s one class I should be okay. And if going back then doesn’t work, I can wait until September and hopefully go full time and then Child # 1 will definitely be in Junior Kindergarten and Baby # 2 will be about 10 months old.

See?! Look at all my plans! Look at how organized I am!

Too bad this doesn’t usually happen 😛

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